Don’t Abandon “Sorry”

Ask yourself why you apologize. Instead of cutting out your apologies, pay attention to how you feel when you apologize. Does apologizing make you feel weak or insecure? Do you apologize because you crave the approval of strangers? If so, then you may choose to apologize less to see how the habit affects your self-esteem. Like me, you might feel reasonably confident when you apologize. “Sorry” might simply be part of your politeness language, like saying, “Excuse me.” Trying to apologize less might make you feel more undermined than simply being yourself.

KRISTIN WONG in “You Don’t Have to Stop Saying You’re Sorry,”

The New York Times, April 22, 2019