Ever Been Called Shrill? Strident? A Diva? Getting Mad Is Healthy!

“Girls are taught, through politeness norms that suppress disruptive behavior, to use indirect methods of dealing with rage. For example, it’s ‘unladylike’ to be loud, or ‘vulgar’ to curse, yell, or seem unattractive. Adaptable girls find socially acceptable ways to internalize or channel their discomfort and ire, sometimes at great personal cost. Passive aggressive behavior, anxiety, and depression are common effects. Sarcasm, apathy, and meanness have all been linked to suppressed rage. 

“Girls, taught to ignore their anger, become disassociated from themselves.”


Soraya Chemaly, from “Does Your Daughter Know It’s OK To Be Angry?,” Role Reboot, May 9, 2016.